One year, I actually kept one. In high school, I decided to go without sugar; no desserts, no added sugar to anything. I did it. And then proceded to devour much of the Christmas goodies stashed away in the freezer. I do have the feeling of success, but it all seems kind of silly now. So I don’t bother with New Year resolutions.
I’ve long ago given up on New Year resolutions. They’re usually a set-up for failure, frustration and guilt.
One year, I actually kept one.
In high school, I decided to go without sugar; no desserts, no added sugar to anything. I did it. And then proceded to devour much of the Christmas goodies stashed away in the freezer.
I do have the feeling of success, but it all seems kind of silly now.
So I don’t bother with New Year resolutions.
Resolutions to end a habit (or create a new one), or to change direction, can be made at any time. Without the pressures of the whole New Year thing, I think they’re more likely to succeed.
Timing is part of the key here. If you set new goals at any time during the year, you can re-set them at any time too. And you’re less likely to beat yourself up when you re-set.
There’s no need to compare your resolution success (or failure) with anyone else, when you do it quietly and at any time. No doubt, Facebook will be full of proclamations of all kinds of ambitious New Year resolutions. Some may be true and achievable; most others, well, you get the idea.
This is a good time, though, to consider the “fresh start” offered by the new year. Businesses take assessment of the past year’s projects and successes, and plan adjustments in their course for the year ahead based on that.
This is a perfect time to do that in our family and personal lives, too.
What worked for you this year? How can you pursue even more of that success?
Where did you come short in the past year? And how can you adjust your goals and tactics to improve?
It all comes down to setting priorities, doesn’t it? What is important in your life right now? Are you so busy pursuing money and material goods, or are you building a wealth of friends and interpersonal experiences?
Will you blame external circumstances for your frustrations? No matter what we may plan for our lives, there are always surprises along the way: layoff or job loss, illness, death of a loved one, financial loss, accident or injury, or an unwanted change in a relationship.
The best response is to re-set goals, and set a resolution to make them happen. Sooner rather than later. And as often as needed.
If you have made a New Year resolution, I wish you the best in keeping it. Don’t forget to be
gentle and understanding with yourself in the process.
Grab onto new opportunities. Dare to dream the impossible. Aim for the sky, with your feet on the ground.
While we start a new year, it will eternally be true that “tomorrow is a new day.”
It’s not a failure to re-set, at any time, along the way to a bigger goal.
The failure is in not setting goals, not having hopes or dreams, and not making plans.
We wish you a Happy (and successful in every way) New Year!